Feelings Are Not the Guides to Your Reality

Dave
5 min readAug 19, 2024
Title of the blog post “Feelings are not the guides to your reality” with a picture of someone sitting with a hoody and squiggly lines representing out of control thoughts.

Have you ever felt swept away by a tidal wave of emotions, convinced that your feelings were telling you the absolute truth about your situation?

If so, you’re not alone. Many of us have been there, riding the rollercoaster of our emotions and letting them steer our perceptions and decisions. But what if I told you that your feelings, while important, aren’t always the most reliable guides to your reality?

The Truth About Feelings

As an expert in teaching people how to regulate their emotions, I’ve observed countless individuals grappling with the power of their feelings.

Here’s a crucial insight: Feelings are neither right nor wrong, good nor bad. They’re simply information. Think of your feelings as messengers, each carrying data about your inner world. They’re not here to dictate your reality but to invite you into a deeper conversation with yourself.

The Power of Emotional Connections

To truly understand and process our feelings, we need more than self-reflection. We need connection with other emotional beings.

Emotional processing thrives in the company of others. Sharing and discussing our feelings allows us to gain new perspectives and insights.

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Dave

Dave is a coach, father, entrepreneur and leader. He lives in Steveston, B.C., Canada and is the founder of the Small Pause. See more at www.smallpausecoach.com